Overcoming Fears about Unschooling

Sue Patterson

I know... we all get nervous!

When we start unschooling - or even after we've done it for a little while - we can begin to wonder:

  • Are we doing enough?
  • How can I get the kids more engaged?
  • Am I ruining the kids chances for success in the future if I really unschool!!??
  • Why isn't this going the way I thought it would?


I get it - it's a big responsibility!
And parents who've opted to educate their children separately from the school system feel the weight!

Mary Griffith, author of the Unschooling Handbook, used to say:

Homeschooling parents suffer from Burnout.

Unschooling parents, though, suffer from middle-of-the-night panic attacks!

She was not kidding!!!



What to do about it though?

Now that my own kids are grown, I can tell you with confidence that unschooling works.

But I also know that when we have fear, it's hard to HEAR that.


So, after nearly 30 years of talking with other parents, in the unschooling trenches, so to speak, I want to talk with you!

I can walk you through these concerns and help you see where you're getting stumped.


So many parents are SOOOO close to having this figured out but some part is still making them cling to what's familiar - and that's the very obstacle that's getting in your way.


It's not as complicated as it sounds!

Let's talk!


Book a Call with Sue!

Your Podcast/Blogpost Playlist for Overcoming Fear:


 #9 - Overcoming Fears about Unschooling                 (Listen at YouTube)

#19 - "Am I Doing Enough?"                                        (Listen at YouTube)

#34 - The Pros and Cons of Unschooling                     (Listen at YouTube)

#50 - What's Holding You Back from Unschooling?    (Listen at YouTube)

#63 - Are you afraid of Unschooling?                          (Listen at YouTube)

#78 - Are the Kids Worried about Unschooling?         (Listen at YouTube)

#91 - How to Unschool Math WITHOUT Curriculum? (Listen at YouTube)

#94 - But What About Gaps?                                       (Listen at YouTube)

.........Stop Letting Fear Hold You Back                         (Read at blog)

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